UnLearn
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One of the best reads so far this year packed full of lessons and wisdom to take with you throughout life.

Recommendation: 5/5


My Highlights

To attain knowledge, add things every day. To attain wisdom, remove things every day. —Lao Tzu

A simple shift in what your mind is paying attention to can do wonders for the way you feel.

What you fear isn’t the roadblock; allowing the fear to keep you from moving is the real obstacle.

… if you think life sucks, life will suck.

The only reason you’re not good enough is because you’re thinking it.

Make an excuse to be happy right now and start painting with those thoughts. Your life is art, a work in progress, at that, and it’s only complete when you’re dead. Every day is a new day to see it the way you want.

Realize, every thought you have is a brushstroke on the world you see.

We’re born alone and die alone, and again, though it lacks romance, putting your relationship with yourself first dramatically enhances your ability to have relationships with others.

… if you’re not happy with yourself, nothing can compensate to fill that void.

When we’re not happy with our present, we can start wishing away our future by focusing on the past, or … we can do something about it NOW.

Learn from the mistakes of your past, thank them for occurring, and then gently push them into the wind and wave as they flutter away.

The less you give a damn, the happier you’ll be. Create a life that feels good on the inside, not one that simply looks good from the outside.

Your priorities are not revealed in your words, they are revealed in your actions, and your actions are revealed by your schedule.

…everyone who has done something amazing has done it despite the fear, not in its absence.

Until science can do otherwise, we’re all ending our story with death. It’s really up to you how you use the days leading up to your eventual demise.

Focusing on yourself is really one of the least selfish things you do. It puts you in a position to be empathetic to other people who are also trying to focus on themselves. You can develop an “Imma do me, you do you” mindset, which can create an environment that lets people grow on their own terms…

Social obligations and being around people you don’t want to be around are just a waste of life.

It’s OK to let people know that you’re not excited to be around them; if anything, that’ll keep you from having to be around them for much longer.

The strongest don’t survive; the most adaptable do. When life is viewed this way, nothing is seen as an obstruction, but merely an obstacle to overcome.

“Be like water making its way through cracks. Do not be assertive, but adjust to the object, and you shall find a way around or through it. If nothing within you stays rigid, outward things will disclose themselves. Empty your mind, be formless. Shapeless, like water. If you put water into a cup, it becomes the cup. You put water into a bottle and it becomes the bottle. You put it in a teapot, it becomes the teapot. Now, water can flow or it can crash. Be water, my friend.” —Bruce Lee

Respecting mortality will dramatically enhance how efficiently we spend the time we have here.

“Don’t cry because it’s over. Smile because it happened.” —Dr. Seuss

Seeking approval from other allows them dominion over you identity.

If people don’t like you for who you are, change the people, not yourself.

Observing everyone on the surface, then comparing what you see to what you’re feeling deep inside is a guaranteed method of sinking yourself even lower.

Life doesn’t start after the obstacles; life is the obstacles.

There’s no growth in your comfort zone, there’s no comfort in your growth zone. It’s not a Venn diagram and there’s no happy medium.

When you pave your own road, there’s less traffic.

We can find peace in the fact that there won’t ever be peace as well.

The more you know yourself, the more unique your adventure will be for you.

Often our biggest obstacle in life is simply ourselves.

If you know what you want from life, don’t let anyone tell you that it can’t be obtained, especially if the one telling you is yourself. We only allow others to speak to us a certain way if it matches the thoughts and feelings we already have.

Don’t let others put you down, and DEFINITELY do not put yourself down. It’s a pointless act; if you recognize something in yourself you feel needs improvement, don’t wallow in self-pity—improve it.

“Conquered Mind, Conquered World.”

It’s amazing how well we function in the outside world when we’re in control of our world inside.

The natural pace of things will NEVER accommodate you so maybe you could take steps to accommodate it.

Thinking you already have it figure out closes your windows to a universe of learning opportunities and growth.

The reality is you’re not married to who you are; you can change it at any moment.

…the most celebrated individuals are the ones who amplify their unique characteristics.

It’s about creating and destroying yourself on a regular basis. Every version of yourself serves its purpose, and killing that self for the new self is a great exercise in letting go and avoiding comfort zones. Comfort zones, after all, are the enemy of growth.

The fear of loneliness can drive us to compromise who we are, thinking it will open us up to other people.

The more time we spend getting to know ourselves, the better equipped we’ll be to determine our compatibility with others. It will also make us less dependent on others to fill a void, allowing use to have healthy relationships based on more than simply quelling our fear of loneliness.

Love when you’re ready, not when you’re lonely.

We end up wasting today focusing on yesterday or worrying about tomorrow. The simple fact is: the present is all we have.

Just because you’re feeling down doesn’t mean you have to be down. Have a conversation with yourself and figure out the root of the emotion.

The anxiety comes from our imagination’s idea of the things we need to do. Getting them done comes from the baby steps we take to get the things in motion.

If your priority is to learn and grow, your potential pool of experiences grows exponentially.

Get out there. Be uncomfortable. Make mistakes. Get embarrassed. We’ll all be dead soon, it’s not a big deal.

People who focus on things they’re thankful for will generally be happier.

…there isn’t much to benefit from remaining in our comfort zone as the world keeps turning.

Compare yourself to who you were yesterday, and celebrate your evolution.

Decide what you want, focus on it, and take the baby steps necessary to get there.

You are not your beliefs.

Some people believe that what’s happening to them determines their happiness. But the reality is, how they deal with those things determines how they feel.

Let your yesterdays go.

Leave the past where it belongs; the lessons will find you. Focus on improving the way you feel now—it’s all you have.

Some shit can change and some shit is still beyond you; maneuver accordingly.

It’s not in our nature to be at peace—that’s why first world problems exist. Once your basic needs are met, you make up a bunch of new ones to be sad about.

Suffering is key reason we evolve and improve our situation.

Failure becomes success the moment we learn from it.

Pay attention to action over words; they are always more revealing.

When it’s your time to die it’s going to be a solo activity, so don’t let the choices you make while you’re alive depend on the approval of others. When it’s all said and done, they’re not coming with you.

Every moment you receive is yours and yours alone.

Regret is a pointless practice.

Live in the moment; it’s a cliche, but it’s true. These moments are gifts squandered while we focus on the ones that have already passed, or the ones we hope will come in the future. We’re happiest when we’re in the moment…

Trust your gut; there isn’t anyone else out there more qualified to deal with you than yourself. When folks come to you for help, be mindful of their intention; it may no be evident at first, but it will be very soon. Some folks will appreciate you teaching them to fish, while others will continue to come back for another handout.

Don’t care less, just be wiser about who you care for…

Decide which emotions you want to feed.

When you start to admit your fears, you’ll realize how much of this world is governed by fear.

The fear of uncomfortable ideas and uncomfortable situations and uncomfortable places robs us of the amazing potential we all have.

…the more freedom you claim, the more weight you hold and responsibilities you’ll have. People walk the easy beaten path because, after all, it’s easy. The idea of challenges in life is not everyone’s cup of tea; but I can promise you, greatness wouldn’t feel great if it came easy.

Don’t play the game that others play, where they build a shell of a life just for display purposes. Have a life of substance that you want, even if that isn’t what other feel is best for you.

No one else can live this life for you.

It’s your story, don’t let someone else hold the pen.

Once you determine and create your purpose, you may even find multiple roads to take you to that same spot. Happiness is a mind-state…

Simplify your loves and explore all the routes that take you there. That’s what’s going to make for an awesome story. Don’t bind yourself by the expectations of others; it’s not their story to write.

The hardest working people tend to be the luckiest.

…positive comments are just as valid and invalid as the negative ones.

You can only start being yourself when you start to get to know yourself.

Only you know the lies you still cling to.

The past doesn’t exist anymore, and it never will ever again. Allowing your decisions from this nonexistent period of time to cause you pain is counterproductive in the time you have in the present.

Anything you’ve messed up in the past can be chalked up to a life lesson and experience. Success is a horrible teacher, so rely on the missteps and failures to guide you…

People are attracted to confidence; that’s it. Confidence comes from a comfort in your own skin.

Pay attention to the people you keep around you. They may attempt to project their insecurities onto you so they don’t feel like the only ones.

We have the ability to build and destroy in our minds.

Progress will add up if you stick with it.

They say dress for the job you want, fake it ’til you make it. It’s not simply faking it—it’s making the mental adjustments now to help you bring yourself to the place you want to be.

Negativity is a disease—don’t infect yourself.

The challenges we face are opportunities to grow into better people.

Happiness is simply realizing things we appreciate, but if we’re too busy occupying space with things to worry about, there won’t be much room to be happy.

Create the life you want, delete the things you don’t enjoy, and accept when you have.

Settling is death. Please don’t settle.

Doing the same things every day will most likely have the same outcomes everyday. For outcomes to change, we need to change the things we do.

Baby steps in the right direction count, and they’ll add up over time.

Positive thinking is simply the practice of encouraging the mind to find all the things that can go right.

If you want the power to make yourself happy, you have to assume the responsibility for your happiness.


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